How to Talk to a Loved One About Using Assistive Devices
A Caregiver’s Guide to Encouraging Independence with Dignity
Starting a conversation about assistive devices can be hard — especially when the person you care about is proud of their independence or still adjusting to physical changes. As a caregiver, friend, or family member, you want to offer support without overstepping. You want to help — without making it feel like you're taking over.
At OnMyOwn Solutions, we believe that assistive devices aren’t about giving up control — they’re about taking it back. But that message can be difficult to convey when emotions, pride, and fear are involved.
If you’re unsure how to bring it up, you’re not alone. Here’s how to approach the conversation with care, compassion, and confidence.
1. Start with Empathy, Not Instruction
Begin the conversation by acknowledging your loved one’s strengths, not their struggles. Let them know you admire their determination and that your goal is to support them — not to replace their routines or independence.
Try saying:
“I know how much you value doing things on your own. I’ve found something that might make it a little easier — if you're open to it.”
2. Focus on Function, Not Limitation
Assistive tools like MyLEDA aren’t about what someone can’t do — they’re about making what they can do easier and safer.
Present the device as a way to protect their energy, reduce fall risk, or avoid discomfort — especially if they’ve experienced fatigue, joint pain, or a recent injury.
Try saying:
“I found something that might help you get dressed without having to bend or strain. It could make mornings easier — no need to change your routine.”
3. Share the Emotional Benefits, Too
It’s not just about function — it’s about dignity. Using assistive tools can restore a sense of confidence and control, especially for those recovering from surgery or adapting to a chronic condition.
Try saying:
“I read that a lot of people feel more confident when they can do things on their own again — even small things like getting dressed or reaching items.”
4. Offer to Learn Together
Instead of presenting a solution to your loved one, invite them to explore it with you. Watch a demonstration video, review product instructions together, or suggest trying it out with no pressure.
Try saying:
“Want to try it together and see what you think? If it’s not helpful, that’s okay — but if it is, it might save you some effort.”
5. Normalize It
Using assistive devices is more common than most people realize. From jar openers and bath seats to walkers and dressing aids, these tools are simply ways to adapt and keep doing the things we love.
Try saying:
“A lot of people use tools like this, even temporarily. It’s just another way to stay independent.”
Remember: Independence Looks Different for Everyone
Every person’s journey is unique. Some people will accept tools right away. Others may need time, reassurance, or repeated conversations. And that’s okay.
The important thing is that your loved one knows you’re on their side — not to take control, but to offer solutions that help them keep theirs.
Tools That Support Confidence and Daily Life
If you’re looking for practical resources to support your loved one’s mobility and independence, explore our offerings at OnMyOwn Solutions:
MyLEDA – a lower-body dressing aid designed for safe, seated dressing
Solutions for Living Life Well with a Disability – a guidebook with over 150 real-world adaptations for daily life
You don’t have to figure it out alone — and neither do they.
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